My Story
From a Lost Boy
to a Grounded Man.
This is the work I wish I had as a boy.
01
Origin
I Didn't Grow Up
Feeling at Home in the World.
Anxiety. Depression. At times a deep desire to end my life. I didn’t fit into the structures around me, and the way life was supposed to look never made sense to me. So I learned to adapt, to push, to survive, while something inside me quietly knew there was more.
I became good at performing. At showing up. At being the version of myself that the world expected. But underneath all of it, I was lost, disconnected from my body, my purpose, and any real sense of who I was.
This is the story most men I work with know. Not because their circumstances match mine, but because the feeling does. The hollow competence. The successful emptiness. The going through the motions while something essential stays buried.
"At twenty-five, I left South Africa for Costa Rica with no plan. Just the knowing that something had to break open."
— Kyle Mitri
02
The Unraveling
What Followed Was a Complete Unraveling..
I moved to Costa Rica and started rebuilding from the ground up, while also returning to something I always knew was there. I immersed myself in men’s work, somatic practices, breathwork, and deep inner work. I began exploring parts of myself I had spent years avoiding.
I also stepped into working with powerful ceremonial and somatic practices, and into the facilitation of these spaces in ways of connecting to something older, to ancestry, to tradition, to the shared human experience of sitting in community and around the fire.
These practices aren’t escapes. They are ways of remembering. And of bringing what is sacred back into everyday life.
The Practices
The Work That
Changed Everything.
Somatic Work & Breathwork
Learning to live in the body, not just the mind. Breathwork and somatic practice teach a man’s nervous system how to feel safe again. This is where regulation begins.
Plant Medicine & Sacred Fire
Powerful ceremonial and somatic practices. Not as escapes, as ways of remembering. Sitting in ceremony and around fire with other men is ancient. And it works.
Men’s Work & Brotherhood
The rite of passage. The witnessed threshold. The container where a man can be fully seen, and still respected. Brotherhood is not optional. It is the medicine.
03
The Remembering
I Stopped Trying to
Become Someone.
And Started
Feeling at Remembering..
And slowly, something shifted. I stopped trying to become someone and started remembering the man underneath it all.
Because the truth is simple: the safety a man feels in his body shapes everything in his life, how he leads, how he loves, how he relates. And most men are never shown how to build that safety. They’re taught to perform, to carry, to figure it out alone.
What I found wasn’t just healing. It was presence. The kind that doesn’t need to announce itself. The kind that changes rooms. The kind that women feel immediately and other men respect without knowing why.
That’s when I understood: magnetism isn’t built. It’s what’s left when everything that was blocking it gets cleared.
"The safety a man feels in his body shapes everything in his life. Most men are never shown how to build that safety. This is the work that changes that."
— Kyle Mitri
How I Work
This is the Work I Wish
I Had as a Boy.
01
Embodiment Over Information
You already understand the problem intellectually. You’ve read the books. The gap is not in your head, it’s in your body. My work goes into the nervous system, the emotional body, and the places where presence actually lives. You don’t need more information. You need embodiment.
02
Initiation as the Structure
There is a reason cultures across history built rites of passage for their men. Initiation works because it provides a witnessed threshold, a clear before and after. This six-month container is built as an initiation: structured, held, and witnessed.
03
Brotherhood as Medicine
Men don’t become grounded in isolation. They never have. Brotherhood is not optional in this work, it is the medicine. The witnessed man becomes the witnessing man. The transformation ripples outward from there.
04
Presence as the Outcome
I’m not interested in making you more successful or more confident as the world defines those things. I’m interested in you becoming so fully present in yourself that rooms shift when you walk in. That women lean in. That other men feel something steady in you. That is the outcome.